Is he a hard worker? Does he have a job? Is he strong? Is he courageous? Do other men respect him? You should want a man that you believe is fully capable of taking you on. And if you are a handful, then he needs to be a masculine handful." From the book This book is a collection of letters to a fictional young woman looking for advice on what kind of man to marry. Douglas Wilson offers the kind of advice he has giving young women for decades. A woman should not feel shame about wanting someone who is strong and capable of leading her. In fact, a woman should want someone who has the backbone to lead her, even when she does not want to be led. Beyond that, it's best not to overcomplicate things. Women should guard their hearts in the courtship process, not letting their imaginations get ahead of them, and trusting that God will take care of everything else.